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It's not the message, it's the tone. There's a big difference between offering constructive criticism and being a condescending prick. > You can disagree with
by nwallin 6y ago
It's not the message, it's the tone. There's a big difference between offering constructive criticism and being a condescending prick.
> You can disagree with that reasoning (although you'd be wrong). What you can't do, as a leader in AI, is to pretend to have never heard of it, or that it is so obviously wrong that it warrants no reply whatsoever.
There's a third option. You can just decide to not engage with the condescending prick at all.
We have one of those at work. His area of responsibility is a very cross functional one, and while it is important, he have a great deal of difficulty getting people to participate. Because participation usually means getting told you're an idiot. Loudly, forcefully, and with more words.
That seems to be the case here, only substituting "idiot" out for "racist".
- IfOnlyYouKnew 6y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tone_policing https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tone_policing
- kspacewalk2 6y agoYes, tone matters, regardless of your gender. A prerequisite for a mature adult conversation is for you to quit being hostile to me from the get-go. Am I saying something controversial or micro-aggressive here? So be it.
- prionassembly 6y agoThen, this is a confrontational tone too. I have the distinct impression that what they want is for discussions to become personal. Don't let them get to you.