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Would you date someone who's suicidal?

by pmoriarty 6y ago

niq999 6y ago
As someone suicidal myself, for sure. Otherwise you're a part of the problem.
- pmoriarty 6y ago
  Two suicidal people dating each other? I'm struggling to imagine how this could be a good idea. Honestly, I don't see relationships as any kind of solution to suicidal ideation. Even when only one of the partners is not suicidal, the relationship has a good chance of ending very badly for both of them. People who are suicidal need a therapist, not a date.
- fakedang 6y ago
  Or maybe try to seek better mental health resources through some means whatsoever, instead of relying on an app to find someone as mentally vulnerable as you.
dukeofdoom 6y ago
Sure why not! I think there are many men in America that find Japanese and South Korean women very attractive, and would connect with them. About 4% of the US population has suicidal thoughts (source CDC) Its not leprosy, these are just thoughts. That will go away for most people. Or might come and go, same way as you might get sick at some points in your life.
- pmoriarty 6y ago
  "Its not leprosy, these are just thoughts." If the people having these thoughts are really suicidal, then there really is a serious risk of them committing suicide, which makes what they're thinking not "just thoughts". Also, while it may not be leprosy, one's thoughts and world view can seriously affect your partner. Partners committing suicide together does happen, and even when only one of them does it can be devastating for the other, and even if they don't being in a relationship with a suicidal partner can be heartbreaking. I would seriously think twice, and three times even, before dating someone who was suicidal. IMO, suicidal people need to seriously get their lives together and overcome their issues with therapy before dating, or they risk ruining not only their own lives and that of their own family, but that of their partner and their family as well.
- yibg 6y ago
  Yea connecting men in America that finds Japanese and South Korean women very attractive with vulnerable suicidal Japanese and South Korean women won't be a recipe for abuse at all...
leetcrew 6y ago
depends on exactly what we mean by "suicidal". around 4% of the US population contemplates suicide in a given year, though that number is double or more for younger people. only a minority of those who contemplate it make an actual plan, and again, only a minority of that subset actually follow through with an attempt. if someone told me they had a serious plan to kill themselves on a first date, I would be more likely to try to get them help than to plan a second date. if they told me they periodically have suicidal thoughts, I would consider that a bit of an overshare, but not necessarily a dealbreaker. there are worse problems a partner could have.

Would you date someone who's suicidal?

niq999 6y ago

As someone suicidal myself, for sure. Otherwise you're a part of the problem.

pmoriarty 6y ago
Two suicidal people dating each other? I'm struggling to imagine how this could be a good idea. Honestly, I don't see relationships as any kind of solution to suicidal ideation. Even when only one of the partners is not suicidal, the relationship has a good chance of ending very badly for both of them. People who are suicidal need a therapist, not a date.
fakedang 6y ago
Or maybe try to seek better mental health resources through some means whatsoever, instead of relying on an app to find someone as mentally vulnerable as you.

dukeofdoom 6y ago

Sure why not! I think there are many men in America that find Japanese and South Korean women very attractive, and would connect with them. About 4% of the US population has suicidal thoughts (source CDC) Its not leprosy, these are just thoughts. That will go away for most people. Or might come and go, same way as you might get sick at some points in your life.

pmoriarty 6y ago
"Its not leprosy, these are just thoughts." If the people having these thoughts are really suicidal, then there really is a serious risk of them committing suicide, which makes what they're thinking not "just thoughts". Also, while it may not be leprosy, one's thoughts and world view can seriously affect your partner. Partners committing suicide together does happen, and even when only one of them does it can be devastating for the other, and even if they don't being in a relationship with a suicidal partner can be heartbreaking. I would seriously think twice, and three times even, before dating someone who was suicidal. IMO, suicidal people need to seriously get their lives together and overcome their issues with therapy before dating, or they risk ruining not only their own lives and that of their own family, but that of their partner and their family as well.
yibg 6y ago
Yea connecting men in America that finds Japanese and South Korean women very attractive with vulnerable suicidal Japanese and South Korean women won't be a recipe for abuse at all...

leetcrew 6y ago

depends on exactly what we mean by "suicidal". around 4% of the US population contemplates suicide in a given year, though that number is double or more for younger people. only a minority of those who contemplate it make an actual plan, and again, only a minority of that subset actually follow through with an attempt. if someone told me they had a serious plan to kill themselves on a first date, I would be more likely to try to get them help than to plan a second date. if they told me they periodically have suicidal thoughts, I would consider that a bit of an overshare, but not necessarily a dealbreaker. there are worse problems a partner could have.