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There's a lot to unpack here. I think a much better method is to recognize that if you have trouble figuring out a gift for a person, you either haven't put eno
by cgriswald 6y ago
There's a lot to unpack here. I think a much better method is to recognize that if you have trouble figuring out a gift for a person, you either haven't put enough thought into it, or you don't know the person as well as you might like.
> "I love X author"
This is fine as long as you realize they probably own all of author's works and maybe even pre-ordered the latest release. Find something unique (signed copy? first print? copy signed by the author's rival? rare statuette of their favorite character?) and gift them that instead.
> "I'm getting into Y hobby"
This can be a minefield. If you personally know something about the hobby this can work. But if you find yourself saying "The minimum wage employee at Best Buy told me this widget was the best one", you're gifting an obligation to use what might be an inferior product or one that doesn't meet their needs or expectations. It might even be one they ruled out for themselves. Additionally, researching widgets might be one of the things they enjoy about their new hobby.
> "They have complained about a slow computer that you know you can upgrade the ram/ssd" and the list goes on.
This is the key refinement of your gift-tracking idea. You've leveraged what you know about the world and about the person to gift them something they want or need and may not even know is possible to get for themselves.
> I think back to a dog seat cover I got for a friend after hearing them talk about taking their dog hiking a lot.
I was on the receiving end of this exact gift and it is one of the gifts I appreciate the most to this day.
- claudiawerner 6y ago>This can be a minefield. If you personally know something about the hobby this can work. But if you find yourself saying "The minimum wage employee at Best Buy told me this widget was the best one" I've heard people talk about this online. For example, someone getting into record collecting being gifted the cheapest turntable available on Amazon or in a high street fashion/trinkets store that not only sounds bad but may even damage the records. A waste of money if the recipient is already saving up for a good turntable or already has one. Slightly less worse is receiving an original pressing of an old record but not taking enough time to read about the quality it's being sold in. You can't exactly tell the gifter you spent 10x the cost of a Crosley on a phono preamp alone :)
- mixmastamyk 6y agoGift cert to Amoeba records.
- irrational 6y agoAuthors have rivals? What is an example of rival authors?
- torstenvl 6y agoHemingway and Fitzgerald hated each other.
- Smaug123 6y agoNassim Taleb and Philip Tetlock, for modern examples.
- acomjean 6y agoAlex beam wrote a book about two: The Feud; Vladimir Nabokov, Edmund Wilson and the End of a Beautiful Friendship. https://www.amazon.com/Feud-Vladimir-Nabokov-Beautiful-Friendship/dp/1101870222/ref=nodl_ https://www.amazon.com/Feud-Vladimir-Nabokov-Beautiful-Frien...