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I don't think multi-generational households necessarily need to put a heavier burden on women. In fact, my argument is exactly that households like that do a b

I don't think multi-generational households necessarily need to put a heavier burden on women. In fact, my argument is exactly that households like that do a better job of allocating labor to those who are less able to earn. I don't think there's a real argument to be made that the nuclear household developed because of feminism. The New Deal and post-WWII policies that gave returning vets and their families cheap mortgages in sprawly suburbs appears to have had more to do with it (an era that was notably accompanied by an expansion of household technologies whose goals were to enable a single person to care for an entire household).

toxik 6y ago
That may be so for the US, but I’m not American nor is America the only country with nuclear family ideals.
- InitialLastName 6y ago
  Yes, my perspective was perhaps US-centric, but so is my experience of social history. My understanding was that much of the European and Japanese post-war reconstruction operated on a similar (if less supercharged) model, but I'm hazier on the Eastern Bloc. I'd be very interested in alternative processes, if you can suggest them.
watwut 6y ago
They do, because many grandparents will expect women to do more of traditional household and will treat her more badly or with more resentment if she does not. Also, full time childcare is quite tiring for older people, grandparents who are strong enough are typically employed.
- Viliam1234 6y ago
  > full time childcare is quite tiring for older people Full-time, sure. But what about flexibly available when necessary? Also, traditional household provides too little privacy, but living within 10 minutes walking distance is fantastic. There are all these situations like "grandma, I need to go shopping, could you please take care of the kids for about 30 minutes? maybe later if it is more convenient for you" where having good social infrastructure is awesome, and I cannot imagine how more difficult life would be without it. Seems to me that as a society we went from one extreme to the other, skipping over the point where things could work really great.

toxik 6y ago

That may be so for the US, but I’m not American nor is America the only country with nuclear family ideals.

InitialLastName 6y ago
Yes, my perspective was perhaps US-centric, but so is my experience of social history. My understanding was that much of the European and Japanese post-war reconstruction operated on a similar (if less supercharged) model, but I'm hazier on the Eastern Bloc. I'd be very interested in alternative processes, if you can suggest them.

watwut 6y ago

They do, because many grandparents will expect women to do more of traditional household and will treat her more badly or with more resentment if she does not. Also, full time childcare is quite tiring for older people, grandparents who are strong enough are typically employed.

Viliam1234 6y ago
> full time childcare is quite tiring for older people Full-time, sure. But what about flexibly available when necessary? Also, traditional household provides too little privacy, but living within 10 minutes walking distance is fantastic. There are all these situations like "grandma, I need to go shopping, could you please take care of the kids for about 30 minutes? maybe later if it is more convenient for you" where having good social infrastructure is awesome, and I cannot imagine how more difficult life would be without it. Seems to me that as a society we went from one extreme to the other, skipping over the point where things could work really great.