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Is this stigma due to the tenet of "extreme independence and freedom" from the West? In most Asian countries, taking care of your parents is a filial obligatio

• redis_mlc 6y ago
  For those Westerners dating Asians born in Asia, it's important to be aware of this difference in independence. For Mainland China children, it is expected (ie. mandatory) that their parents will move in with them sometime after marriage. The inlaw is not thought of as a person, but as the parents' pension plan. So if you marry into a family like that, it's important you know the story beforehand. (There's an old Chinese riddle about "Who would you save if your mother and wife fell in the river?" The only acceptable answer is "mother.") For Filipinos, basically the same thing, except there was no "one child" policy as in China. However, their family is much more important than some outsider like you, so again, it's something you want to discuss and think about before getting involved.