Thanks, I liked the description of projection: that it only works if the victim projects their own sympathies onto the aggressor. That is to say: when the vict

Thanks, I liked the description of projection: that it only works if the victim projects their own sympathies onto the aggressor. That is to say: when the victim starts to think “maybe that person is being honest and just wants the best outcome for both of us as that’s what I want” then the instigator has won.