I think what irks me about this question is that changing your behavior is one of the hardest things you can do, and there are probably all sorts of complex cau

I think what irks me about this question is that changing your behavior is one of the hardest things you can do, and there are probably all sorts of complex causes for the behavior. If you’re demanding an immediate commitment you probably get a lie in response. The behavior will continue, everyone involved will feel even worse about it, and it will feel more awkward the next time you have to bring it up.