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You sound like you want to prolong the feedback into some sort of collaborative discussion, instead of getting to the point. Quick feedback is meant to be ...
by flarg 6y ago
You sound like you want to prolong the feedback into some sort of collaborative discussion, instead of getting to the point. Quick feedback is meant to be ... Quick ... To save both parties from too many negative feelings
- tobr 6y agoYou can’t end your feedback with “Can you change that?” and then think “Boom, done in seconds”. No, we’re absolutely not done? You just asked me to commit on the spot to something I potentially haven’t thought about before you just brought it up. I haven’t had a chance to reflect or even to respond. And you think we’re already boom, done? Edit: If you want to actually be done, you could end with something like “I would appreciate if you were mindful of this going forwards”. Then you’ve said what you need to say, and your feedback stands by itself regardless of how the other person reacts to it.
- tobr 6y agoI think what irks me about this question is that changing your behavior is one of the hardest things you can do, and there are probably all sorts of complex causes for the behavior. If you’re demanding an immediate commitment you probably get a lie in response. The behavior will continue, everyone involved will feel even worse about it, and it will feel more awkward the next time you have to bring it up.