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Girls love tall guys. This is true. I’m also willing to bet that your tall mute friend is more attractive than you probably realize. Being tall for all I care c

Girls love tall guys. This is true. I’m also willing to bet that your tall mute friend is more attractive than you probably realize. Being tall for all I care could be the male version of having big boobs. This doesn’t change anything about what I said. Please imagine how much worse your friend would have it if he were overweight and boring. Also, you should build yourself irregardless of women. Reading is good for you. Exercise is good for you. Having a passion is good for you. Coincidentally, these are all signifiers of someone who would be a good dad. Most guys are clueless how women approach men and often don’t even realize when women are coming onto them. It’s never (or rarely) as crass as “hey let’s fuck”. It’s more like they take initiative to say hi first and ask follow up questions. Maybe your fit friend is too passive??

throway98752343 6y ago
You could be right that the tall guy's face was more attractive than the fit guy's, who's too say. My point is the fit guy didn't meet the threshold for being approached by women while the tall guy did. It relates to what you originally said by suggesting there could be plenty of guys, even a majority, for whom no amount of self-improvement will boost them above that threshold. Anyway even if thats the case, it's still a good idea to take care of yourself and cultivate your interests regardless of their application to dating. And being approached by women isn't at all necessary for a successful dating life.
- kinghtown 6y ago
  Actually, I’m mostly commenting on this notion that good looking people give bad dating advice because they are playing the game on easy mode and their insight would be meaningless to below average looking people. Here’s an analogy: If you were trying to learn how to play basketball, would you take advice from someone who isn’t very good at the game but shares the same disadvantages as yourself or would you listen to what Allen Iverson has to say? This is kind of how the argument being presented here sounds to me. Obviously, Iverson won’t get you into the NBA but I would listen to him. Good looking people may come across as arrogant when they say to be yourself or take care of your self but it’s still true.
  - throway98752343 6y ago
    I wouldn't say the dating advice is bad, nor arrogant, just that it isn't as generally applicable as one might think. Of course that assumes you, to whom I'm replying, are actually tall. It'd be like getting football advice from a 190-pound wide receiver when you weigh closer to 300. Some of the advice will still be good, but it does ignore a key difference, and you'd be better off hearing advice from offensive linemen, who'd be in your weight class.

throway98752343 6y ago

You could be right that the tall guy's face was more attractive than the fit guy's, who's too say. My point is the fit guy didn't meet the threshold for being approached by women while the tall guy did. It relates to what you originally said by suggesting there could be plenty of guys, even a majority, for whom no amount of self-improvement will boost them above that threshold. Anyway even if thats the case, it's still a good idea to take care of yourself and cultivate your interests regardless of their application to dating. And being approached by women isn't at all necessary for a successful dating life.

kinghtown 6y ago
Actually, I’m mostly commenting on this notion that good looking people give bad dating advice because they are playing the game on easy mode and their insight would be meaningless to below average looking people. Here’s an analogy: If you were trying to learn how to play basketball, would you take advice from someone who isn’t very good at the game but shares the same disadvantages as yourself or would you listen to what Allen Iverson has to say? This is kind of how the argument being presented here sounds to me. Obviously, Iverson won’t get you into the NBA but I would listen to him. Good looking people may come across as arrogant when they say to be yourself or take care of your self but it’s still true.
- throway98752343 6y ago
  I wouldn't say the dating advice is bad, nor arrogant, just that it isn't as generally applicable as one might think. Of course that assumes you, to whom I'm replying, are actually tall. It'd be like getting football advice from a 190-pound wide receiver when you weigh closer to 300. Some of the advice will still be good, but it does ignore a key difference, and you'd be better off hearing advice from offensive linemen, who'd be in your weight class.