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Going from a 60% swipe rate to a 5% swipe rate doesn't mean going from a dozen awkward dates a month to one good date a month. It means going from one or two aw

• jfengel 6y ago
  If I am so undateable, or women as a class are so undateable, then I would put my effort into finding some alternative view of my life that doesn't put so much of my self-worth on finding an opposite-sex partner. Personally, I've found that women aren't nearly so obsessive about wealth, looks, etc. as is constantly claimed in HN threads. More than anything they seem to want a good partner, somebody who understands them, and is kind, considerate, thoughtful, and interesting. When I see posts declaring that women are, as a class, only interested in a tiny percentage of men, that suggests to me that those men aren't very good at being kind, considerate, thoughtful, and interesting. Which is too bad, because those are fairly easy things to achieve, and shouldn't be the bar to a relationship. There are lots and lots of other things that get in the way of relationships. Those are hard things, and require a lot of picking through people to find a pair that is able to work on hard things together. That will fail right off the bat if they can't do the easy things.
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