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I'm reminded of a 6 ft tall, blonde roommate I once had who advised me to "make sure your photos have you doing something in them, so the women you match with h
by akavi 6y ago
I'm reminded of a 6 ft tall, blonde roommate I once had who advised me to "make sure your photos have you doing something in them, so the women you match with have a hook to start the conversation with.".
(If you don't see what's hilarious about that advice, you are either not a man, are extremely attractive, or haven't ever used a dating app)
- carabiner 6y agoI have male friends who get approached by women in bars, rather than the other way around. I guess their advice would be "go to bars and just wait, someone will notice you." I go to bars and this has never happened to me in my life.
- WalterBright 6y agoBack in the days when I went to bars, I'd tease a handsome friend of mine that his pickup line was "ok".
- flukus 6y agoFor me the ban on smoking in bars was a great leveler, smokers would have to go outside and hang out with people that are all in different groups inside and everyone would chat to each other. Obviously "take up smoking" is bad advice, but is there anything else that forces cross group interaction like this?
- 29083011397778 6y agoTaking up smoking may be bad advice, but keeping your (smoker) buddy company outside sounds like a reasonable way to mingle.
- kinghtown 6y agoI’m reasonably good looking, but I’m really into weightlifting so I guess that’s why women will approach me first sometimes. There are genetic limits to strength but fitness and being in shape are psychologically attractive to women. A lot of guys would be attractive if they would at least do the minimum requirements for maintaining their health. But I digress. Guys who complain about women ignoring them are usually themselves ignoring lots of women around them who would be suitable for them but they aren’t good enough for whatever reason. I’ve seen it SOOOOO many times when average looking guys complain about how shallow girls are or how good looking guys have it easy (this second point isn’t exactly completely untrue mind you) yet they still focus on the most classically attractive women they know or at the bar wherever who are out of their league. If average looking guys were to spend more time on themselves- grooming, having a hobby outside of work/tv/games, fitness, reading a book once in a while- they would be surprised to see how the world around them will change. Also there are lots of good girls who may not be supermodels looking to date regular guys. At least give them the green light once in a while.
- throway98752343 6y agoI'd go out with two friends: one was very fit/muscular and charismatic, the other was tall and functionally mute. The tall guy was constantly approached by women. Never saw it happen with the fit guy. Anecdotal sure, but the results were consistent across many bars and clubs. All that to agree with the ancestor comment about taking this kind of "if you build yourself they will come" advice with a grain of salt.
- kinghtown 6y agoGirls love tall guys. This is true. I’m also willing to bet that your tall mute friend is more attractive than you probably realize. Being tall for all I care could be the male version of having big boobs. This doesn’t change anything about what I said. Please imagine how much worse your friend would have it if he were overweight and boring. Also, you should build yourself irregardless of women. Reading is good for you. Exercise is good for you. Having a passion is good for you. Coincidentally, these are all signifiers of someone who would be a good dad. Most guys are clueless how women approach men and often don’t even realize when women are coming onto them. It’s never (or rarely) as crass as “hey let’s fuck”. It’s more like they take initiative to say hi first and ask follow up questions. Maybe your fit friend is too passive??
- throway98752343 6y agoYou could be right that the tall guy's face was more attractive than the fit guy's, who's too say. My point is the fit guy didn't meet the threshold for being approached by women while the tall guy did. It relates to what you originally said by suggesting there could be plenty of guys, even a majority, for whom no amount of self-improvement will boost them above that threshold. Anyway even if thats the case, it's still a good idea to take care of yourself and cultivate your interests regardless of their application to dating. And being approached by women isn't at all necessary for a successful dating life.
- kinghtown 6y ago
- 300bps 6y agoI am 6’7” and have met most relationships in bars. They usually begin with the woman saying something like, “OMG how tall are you!?”