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Anecdotal, but I have a decent number of (East) Asian female + other ethnicity male couples in my social circle. But only one (East) Asian male + white female c

Anecdotal, but I have a decent number of (East) Asian female + other ethnicity male couples in my social circle. But only one (East) Asian male + white female couple. I'm wondering if the advent of things like BTS will alter dynamics, as quite a few non-Asian women seem to go crazy over K-pop boyband idols. Then again, I'm pretty sure if you're ridiculously good looking, extremely fit, and hugely successful like a boyband idol singer, you're likely to do well on the dating scene regardless of ethnicity.

fxtentacle 6y ago
From what I heard while living in Asia, some of the boyband idols used drugs to rape girls because they were super frustrated about their regular dating success. So apparently, even being rich and good looking is not enough. https://www.theguardian.com/music/2019/nov/29/k-pop-stars-jailed-for-quasi-rape-of-woman-jung-joon-young-choi-jong-hoon https://www.theguardian.com/music/2019/nov/29/k-pop-stars-ja...
- decafninja 6y ago
  I don't think the Burning Sun scandal implies anything about male idols success (or lack of) in the dating market. It's more about them abusing their power/influence/wealth if anything. The dynamics of dating in Asia amongst native population Asians is a whole different story than that experienced by Asian-Americans in the US (or other Western countries). The demographics there are largely homogenous and expectations by far are that you're most likely going to date and marry someone of your own ethnicity. If you're a Korean man in Korea, you're probably not at any disadvantage on the domestic dating scene because of your ethnicity, you probably have close to zero expectation that you'll be dating someone who is not Korean, or at least not Asian.
- TheCoelacanth 6y ago
  I'm pretty sure rich and famous men do that outside of Asia too. They're not doing it because they can't find women who would sleep with them.

fxtentacle 6y ago

From what I heard while living in Asia, some of the boyband idols used drugs to rape girls because they were super frustrated about their regular dating success. So apparently, even being rich and good looking is not enough. https://www.theguardian.com/music/2019/nov/29/k-pop-stars-jailed-for-quasi-rape-of-woman-jung-joon-young-choi-jong-hoon https://www.theguardian.com/music/2019/nov/29/k-pop-stars-ja...

decafninja 6y ago
I don't think the Burning Sun scandal implies anything about male idols success (or lack of) in the dating market. It's more about them abusing their power/influence/wealth if anything. The dynamics of dating in Asia amongst native population Asians is a whole different story than that experienced by Asian-Americans in the US (or other Western countries). The demographics there are largely homogenous and expectations by far are that you're most likely going to date and marry someone of your own ethnicity. If you're a Korean man in Korea, you're probably not at any disadvantage on the domestic dating scene because of your ethnicity, you probably have close to zero expectation that you'll be dating someone who is not Korean, or at least not Asian.
TheCoelacanth 6y ago
I'm pretty sure rich and famous men do that outside of Asia too. They're not doing it because they can't find women who would sleep with them.