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This discussion wasn't about which site to use, it was about when you're on a given site, how much does it make sense to swipe. And the only logical answer is

This discussion wasn't about which site to use, it was about when you're on a given site, how much does it make sense to swipe. And the only logical answer is to swipe as much as possible. Moving to another app doesn't change that.

wolco2 6y ago
That's not logical that's thinking linearly. What are you even swiping at if you are swiping at everything? You control the words in your profile, your picture. Want a gothic girl make your profile and pic match. Swipe only on goths profiles. When you try to be everything you become nothing.
- sir_bearington 6y ago
  I think you're missing the point. The disparity in match rates is such that most men are not able to get matches while being selective. If he only swipes on goth profiles, he'll get no matches unless he's incredibly lucky. Between swiping selectively and having a high probability of zero matches, and swiping liberally and having a good probability of getting at least a few matches I'm not surprised most men choose the latter.
  - wolco2 6y ago
    If he isn't targeting a group his odds are 5%. By hyper targetting those odds could be much higher Randomly adding private ig profiles as a male probably has a 1-3% chance of success but as a good looking female that number probably jumps to 15%+. But if he was a goth had interesting goth photos that person will identify with him and add him. Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Want a ton more matches? Post a pic of your cat as your picture. Women may not find you interesting but many will want to meet your cat.
    - sir_bearington 6y ago
      Why do you think a narrow search is any more likely to result in a match? The other party does not know who else you swipe right on. Narrowing a search does not yield an increase in match rates. Bob is interested in goth women. There's 5 of them in his area. Plus another 95 non-goth women. If he accepts only the 5 goth women, he might get lucky and get a match but at 1-3% change of matching he's still likely to have zero matches. But if he swipes right on all 100 women his chances of having at lease a couple matches goes up drastically, and the 5 goth women he's especially interested are no less likely to match with him. Sure, taking better pictures and working out to become more attractive increases the likelihood of matching. If Bob hits the gym, gets some professional photos taken, and crafts a better profile his match rate with those 5 goth women will increase. But his chances also increase for the other 95 women, and he has no reason to refrain from swiping right on them. > Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Yes! When you're job searching there's no reason to limit your job search. Yes, you should craft your resume and cover letter to emphasize the skills the company is looking for. But you're still strictly better off applying to 100 companies as compared to 10 companies. Online dating is no different. In fact I was job searching not long ago and I applied to ~50 companies a day. Why not apply to a company I'm only lukewarm about? If it turns out I don't like the company I can just not schedule an interview. Or do the interview anyway, and use a potential offer as leverage in negotiating.
      - wolco2 6y ago
        Do you really want those 95 other women? If you ended up out with one of those other girls and a goth girl swipes back and you miss that opportunity are you still happy. Plus you waste an evening to beef up your goth profile to attract all 5. You could be using the time to research what areas have more goths and move. If you want any girl, swipe everyone. In that case why not use the money you were planning on impressing this girl and just hire a girl for the evening. Your odds/costs will be less and relationship prospects about the same. Let's say you swipe, find success and meet this person. Getting to that hook up finish will take much more legwork compared to if you are prequalified. For job prospectives I find if I do that (apply to every job) you end up wasting a lot of time and energy in low chance opportunities or high chance but low quality opportunities. It worked when I first started but didn't work out so well after 15 years of experience.

wolco2 6y ago

That's not logical that's thinking linearly. What are you even swiping at if you are swiping at everything? You control the words in your profile, your picture. Want a gothic girl make your profile and pic match. Swipe only on goths profiles. When you try to be everything you become nothing.

sir_bearington 6y ago
I think you're missing the point. The disparity in match rates is such that most men are not able to get matches while being selective. If he only swipes on goth profiles, he'll get no matches unless he's incredibly lucky. Between swiping selectively and having a high probability of zero matches, and swiping liberally and having a good probability of getting at least a few matches I'm not surprised most men choose the latter.
- wolco2 6y ago
  If he isn't targeting a group his odds are 5%. By hyper targetting those odds could be much higher Randomly adding private ig profiles as a male probably has a 1-3% chance of success but as a good looking female that number probably jumps to 15%+. But if he was a goth had interesting goth photos that person will identify with him and add him. Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Want a ton more matches? Post a pic of your cat as your picture. Women may not find you interesting but many will want to meet your cat.
  - sir_bearington 6y ago
    Why do you think a narrow search is any more likely to result in a match? The other party does not know who else you swipe right on. Narrowing a search does not yield an increase in match rates. Bob is interested in goth women. There's 5 of them in his area. Plus another 95 non-goth women. If he accepts only the 5 goth women, he might get lucky and get a match but at 1-3% change of matching he's still likely to have zero matches. But if he swipes right on all 100 women his chances of having at lease a couple matches goes up drastically, and the 5 goth women he's especially interested are no less likely to match with him. Sure, taking better pictures and working out to become more attractive increases the likelihood of matching. If Bob hits the gym, gets some professional photos taken, and crafts a better profile his match rate with those 5 goth women will increase. But his chances also increase for the other 95 women, and he has no reason to refrain from swiping right on them. > Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Yes! When you're job searching there's no reason to limit your job search. Yes, you should craft your resume and cover letter to emphasize the skills the company is looking for. But you're still strictly better off applying to 100 companies as compared to 10 companies. Online dating is no different. In fact I was job searching not long ago and I applied to ~50 companies a day. Why not apply to a company I'm only lukewarm about? If it turns out I don't like the company I can just not schedule an interview. Or do the interview anyway, and use a potential offer as leverage in negotiating.
    - wolco2 6y ago
      Do you really want those 95 other women? If you ended up out with one of those other girls and a goth girl swipes back and you miss that opportunity are you still happy. Plus you waste an evening to beef up your goth profile to attract all 5. You could be using the time to research what areas have more goths and move. If you want any girl, swipe everyone. In that case why not use the money you were planning on impressing this girl and just hire a girl for the evening. Your odds/costs will be less and relationship prospects about the same. Let's say you swipe, find success and meet this person. Getting to that hook up finish will take much more legwork compared to if you are prequalified. For job prospectives I find if I do that (apply to every job) you end up wasting a lot of time and energy in low chance opportunities or high chance but low quality opportunities. It worked when I first started but didn't work out so well after 15 years of experience.