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How do you think that translates to the context of online dating? There are no rooms, just 1-1 matches. You can't stand out more by swiping less, can you? You

How do you think that translates to the context of online dating? There are no rooms, just 1-1 matches. You can't stand out more by swiping less, can you? Your best strategy is always simple to swipe as much as possible (until the algorithm punishes you for doing that.)

wolco2 6y ago
Go use a smaller app or a smaller dating site. Is tinderthe only site you use ? Why not go more niche. Are you Jewish, Christian, plenty of sites can be found. Are you into a specific sexual preference or gender? Plenty of sites around those...
- throwaway39938 6y ago
  This discussion wasn't about which site to use, it was about when you're on a given site, how much does it make sense to swipe. And the only logical answer is to swipe as much as possible. Moving to another app doesn't change that.
  - wolco2 6y ago
    That's not logical that's thinking linearly. What are you even swiping at if you are swiping at everything? You control the words in your profile, your picture. Want a gothic girl make your profile and pic match. Swipe only on goths profiles. When you try to be everything you become nothing.
    - sir_bearington 6y ago
      I think you're missing the point. The disparity in match rates is such that most men are not able to get matches while being selective. If he only swipes on goth profiles, he'll get no matches unless he's incredibly lucky. Between swiping selectively and having a high probability of zero matches, and swiping liberally and having a good probability of getting at least a few matches I'm not surprised most men choose the latter.
      - wolco2 6y ago
        If he isn't targeting a group his odds are 5%. By hyper targetting those odds could be much higher Randomly adding private ig profiles as a male probably has a 1-3% chance of success but as a good looking female that number probably jumps to 15%+. But if he was a goth had interesting goth photos that person will identify with him and add him. Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Want a ton more matches? Post a pic of your cat as your picture. Women may not find you interesting but many will want to meet your cat.
        sir_bearington 6y ago
        Why do you think a narrow search is any more likely to result in a match? The other party does not know who else you swipe right on. Narrowing a search does not yield an increase in match rates. Bob is interested in goth women. There's 5 of them in his area. Plus another 95 non-goth women. If he accepts only the 5 goth women, he might get lucky and get a match but at 1-3% change of matching he's still likely to have zero matches. But if he swipes right on all 100 women his chances of having at lease a couple matches goes up drastically, and the 5 goth women he's especially interested are no less likely to match with him. Sure, taking better pictures and working out to become more attractive increases the likelihood of matching. If Bob hits the gym, gets some professional photos taken, and crafts a better profile his match rate with those 5 goth women will increase. But his chances also increase for the other 95 women, and he has no reason to refrain from swiping right on them. > Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Yes! When you're job searching there's no reason to limit your job search. Yes, you should craft your resume and cover letter to emphasize the skills the company is looking for. But you're still strictly better off applying to 100 companies as compared to 10 companies. Online dating is no different. In fact I was job searching not long ago and I applied to ~50 companies a day. Why not apply to a company I'm only lukewarm about? If it turns out I don't like the company I can just not schedule an interview. Or do the interview anyway, and use a potential offer as leverage in negotiating.
        6y ago

wolco2 6y ago

Go use a smaller app or a smaller dating site. Is tinderthe only site you use ? Why not go more niche. Are you Jewish, Christian, plenty of sites can be found. Are you into a specific sexual preference or gender? Plenty of sites around those...

throwaway39938 6y ago
This discussion wasn't about which site to use, it was about when you're on a given site, how much does it make sense to swipe. And the only logical answer is to swipe as much as possible. Moving to another app doesn't change that.
- wolco2 6y ago
  That's not logical that's thinking linearly. What are you even swiping at if you are swiping at everything? You control the words in your profile, your picture. Want a gothic girl make your profile and pic match. Swipe only on goths profiles. When you try to be everything you become nothing.
  - sir_bearington 6y ago
    I think you're missing the point. The disparity in match rates is such that most men are not able to get matches while being selective. If he only swipes on goth profiles, he'll get no matches unless he's incredibly lucky. Between swiping selectively and having a high probability of zero matches, and swiping liberally and having a good probability of getting at least a few matches I'm not surprised most men choose the latter.
    - wolco2 6y ago
      If he isn't targeting a group his odds are 5%. By hyper targetting those odds could be much higher Randomly adding private ig profiles as a male probably has a 1-3% chance of success but as a good looking female that number probably jumps to 15%+. But if he was a goth had interesting goth photos that person will identify with him and add him. Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Want a ton more matches? Post a pic of your cat as your picture. Women may not find you interesting but many will want to meet your cat.
      - sir_bearington 6y ago
        Why do you think a narrow search is any more likely to result in a match? The other party does not know who else you swipe right on. Narrowing a search does not yield an increase in match rates. Bob is interested in goth women. There's 5 of them in his area. Plus another 95 non-goth women. If he accepts only the 5 goth women, he might get lucky and get a match but at 1-3% change of matching he's still likely to have zero matches. But if he swipes right on all 100 women his chances of having at lease a couple matches goes up drastically, and the 5 goth women he's especially interested are no less likely to match with him. Sure, taking better pictures and working out to become more attractive increases the likelihood of matching. If Bob hits the gym, gets some professional photos taken, and crafts a better profile his match rate with those 5 goth women will increase. But his chances also increase for the other 95 women, and he has no reason to refrain from swiping right on them. > Swiping everyone is just like emailing every company your resume. Spend sometime craft your profile and target who you want. Yes! When you're job searching there's no reason to limit your job search. Yes, you should craft your resume and cover letter to emphasize the skills the company is looking for. But you're still strictly better off applying to 100 companies as compared to 10 companies. Online dating is no different. In fact I was job searching not long ago and I applied to ~50 companies a day. Why not apply to a company I'm only lukewarm about? If it turns out I don't like the company I can just not schedule an interview. Or do the interview anyway, and use a potential offer as leverage in negotiating.
        6y ago