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There are so many men who employ a strategy of just bombarding every single woman on the platform. This results in women getting dozens to hundreds of extremely
by Apes 6y ago
There are so many men who employ a strategy of just bombarding every single woman on the platform. This results in women getting dozens to hundreds of extremely low quality matches for every quality match. If this somehow doesn't cause the woman to just give up immediately, then she's at most going to only look at most at a dozen or so of those matches before she gives up, and they're almost all going to all be garbage.
This means that there at best only a 1-10% chance of a woman even seeing a quality message directed at her, given the sheer volume of garbage being directed at them.
It's the same reason why you don't notice the genuinely good deals in the massive amounts of advertisements you're bombarded with every day. The sheer volume of noise just makes the whole system far more useless than you would expect.
- meiraleal 6y agoThe point in discussion is what is a quality message? And what is considered garbage? While men think they are unattractive when they don't get matches in dating apps, women think they mencare unattractive when they can't match the best looking guys in the app.
- decafninja 6y agoDo most women on online dating sites care about the quality of a message? And even if they do, how much quality does a man need to invest in drafting a message before he hits the point of diminishing returns? I imagine a scenario that could happen frequently is that man new to online dating signs up, initially puts good effort into messaging select women he finds attractive, gets ignored a gazillion times, then throws in the towel and starts shotgunning. Or gives up on online dating altogether.