Unsolicited advice warning That's a long road. I think it's fair to ask you to pull your weight with the housework but maybe try setting some standard boundar

Unsolicited advice warning That's a long road. I think it's fair to ask you to pull your weight with the housework but maybe try setting some standard boundaries e.g. between 8-5 or something, so there's no need for an interaction ('are you done working?'). If you're conveniently 'working' every time she asks that's not going to help. Or you could ask her to do your work while you do the dishes/cook/etc. My suggestion would be that no matter what you decide, propose the idea proactively. Don't wait until there's an ask on the table.