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I felt like you until my daughter was born. She was unplanned but it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Yes, you do become a more complete person and your
by morganpyne 15y ago
I felt like you until my daughter was born. She was unplanned but it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Yes, you do become a more complete person and your perspective changes; simple as that. I don't know if that's just nature rewiring to think like that, to be a different person, losing the old one on the way. Maybe that's an impossible question to answer since either perspective is inherently biased. But I am a better person for it. I have grown in a way that would never happen if I remained childless, and I am a happier person for it.
- gigawatt 15y agoI have a 10-month-old son, and I also didn't get kids at all until he was born (and honestly, it was until he was about 4 or 5 months old until I really got it). But I think it's unfair to say having kids makes you a more complete person. Without a doubt, it makes you a different person, but I firmly believe it's possible to live an equally fulfilling life without ever having kids. Having kids essentially just drastically reorganizes your priorities, some for the better and some for the worse. I think the moral of the article that was linked to was to spend more (and hopefully most) of your time doing what makes you happy. Whether that is creating something out of your genes or out of your mind matters not.
- bricestacey 15y agoI get the same feeling out of his letter. He doesn't claim any regret for time not spent with family. Instead he wishes his daughters to rejoice in the things they enjoy. For some that is family, others your ideas, or maybe even a combination of the two.