I don’t think this is true. It feels like the same kind of argument as “one who cares about their suitor’s appearance must not care about the stuff that really

I don’t think this is true. It feels like the same kind of argument as “one who cares about their suitor’s appearance must not care about the stuff that really matters, their personality.” It’s not true and it’s a false dichotomy. Software projects that use databases often have lots of people working on it, reporting to people who don’t work on it. While I personally believe it’s easy enough to bury “CockroachDB” from sight, it may not be so easy everywhere. Lots of people, techies and not, care about aesthetics and appeal. It’s not rational (in any technological sense), but it is what it is.