XKCD & Randall Munroe got me through my tortured PhD. As you allude to, I've also experienced something like this & lost someone close. I know how heart-wrench

XKCD & Randall Munroe got me through my tortured PhD. As you allude to, I've also experienced something like this & lost someone close. I know how heart-wrenching it can be, and how debilitating it is to just stand by and watch. The very best to you & more power to the two of them!