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taking care of a small child is exhausting. the way our culture says a person can do that full time and also work full time is completely unrealistic. But the s
by jes5199 6y ago
taking care of a small child is exhausting. the way our culture says a person can do that full time and also work full time is completely unrealistic. But the shape of it changes over time - you’re what, nine months in? that’s still the hard time. Over the next few months, it will get easier, little by little. The kind of attention that a child needs changes, and while it continues to be intense, I find having a 2-year-old so much less mentally draining than having a small baby was.
If you can, just try to be present in the moment. Maybe you can’t work right now, but what you’re doing is important. Being a good parent will do more good for the world than almost anything you will ever do for money
- ograrian 6y agothanks for the reply - its nice to hear some perspective. yes I have a much better appreciation for full time childcare and the associated stresses now. i absolutely want to be the best parent i can; for now i guess that manifests itself in direct time and attention. its just hard to come to terms with not being able to enjoy intellectual pursuits, projects, etc., not being able to feel like I'm contributing much to our situation and just not knowing when things will change. my wife has been great dealing with her side of things at the same time (and I probably don't say that enough tbh).