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Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. To be blunt, it sounds like you’ve been tossed into a blender, and I can’t think of anyone in my life who coul

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. To be blunt, it sounds like you’ve been tossed into a blender, and I can’t think of anyone in my life who could have gone through all of what you just described and not feel exhausted so please keep that in mind. It sounds like a lot. I don’t have any advice to give except, if you are able, find and speak to a professional therapist. I thought I was above that sort of thing until my own mental health got so bad it was basically one of my only options. One thing I wish someone had told me in my mental health journey - If you don’t connect with the first (or second, or third) therapist you meet with, fire them and look for a new one. You won’t offend the first (or second, or third) therapist because they have the same goal you do, which is to get you into a better place. It took me three tries to make the right connection with someone I spent about six months working with and it has made a big improvement in my well being. Sending positive vibes!

avtar 6y ago
> One thing I wish someone had told me in my mental health journey - If you don’t connect with the first (or second, or third) therapist you meet with, fire them and look for a new one. 100% this. I was thankful when someone gave me this advice and finally found a therapist that's been such a huge help in dealing with depression. If you (swat535, or anyone) need someone to talk to please hit me up, my email is in my profile.
edem 6y ago
I second this. A therapist can help _A LOT_. I spent 3 years in therapy and my life changed to the better.
- Slaren 6y ago
  As for the therapist, I can give some recommendations, because many people have difficulties with this and I can understand them. It is just necessary to refer to professionals and without that there is no way. But by the way, you don't have to go somewhere, you can even sit at home and get the necessary help. I already know how to achieve this. You just need to always address to professionals. This is a good option in fact. I already know, I have found an excellent therapy here https://calmerry.com/text-therapy/ https://calmerry.com/text-therapy/ . They have helped me a lot and I am sincerely grateful to them. I hope that it will be the same in the future. These are real professionals who know what to do and how to do it.
ilikeerp 6y ago
I wish we could drop the word 'vulnerable'; that's what a gazelle is before a lion rips its head off. The OP was open and honest rather than vulnerable. If we want equality and open dialogue, we have to be careful to make our language inclusive. 'Vulnerable' is associated with being weak for some people and isn't an inclusive word. I don't consider myself vulnerable when I share something close to my heart. I would never share anything in a space where being 'vulnerable' was encouraged. Open and honest.. not vulerable.
- Pokepokalypse 6y ago
  I think it's a very constructive word. Because in this world; very often, making yourself emotionally vulnerable DOES expose one to some pretty horrible abuse, if you do it in the wrong setting. And it often ends up making the problem worse, prolonging or even preventing recovery. We'd really like to live in a world where people are not driven to attack each other when they are down. But unfortunately, that's not the world we live in, and I think people need to be pretty vigilant when they're going through something like this and looking for help. TBH I find that anonymous internet forums are very useful places for this sort of thing, (because they're free, and convenient) - but on the other hand, there are some really bad predators out there who are constantly on the lookout for a gazelle to eat.
  - jbverschoor 6y ago
    You can be closed and still be emotionally vulnerable. Openness is not vulnerability. In fact, if you're open, you've either processed, you might be very stable/strong, or you have people around you to be open with - a safety net. So yes, let's drop the "vulnerability" word.
- kls 6y ago
  This is a good point, when I talk about my suicide attempt I don't feel vulnerable, I feel it comes from a position of strength. Honesty does not have to come from vulnerability, it can come from a position of strength but a commitment to a moral duty to help others.

avtar 6y ago

> One thing I wish someone had told me in my mental health journey - If you don’t connect with the first (or second, or third) therapist you meet with, fire them and look for a new one. 100% this. I was thankful when someone gave me this advice and finally found a therapist that's been such a huge help in dealing with depression. If you (swat535, or anyone) need someone to talk to please hit me up, my email is in my profile.

edem 6y ago

I second this. A therapist can help _A LOT_. I spent 3 years in therapy and my life changed to the better.

Slaren 6y ago
As for the therapist, I can give some recommendations, because many people have difficulties with this and I can understand them. It is just necessary to refer to professionals and without that there is no way. But by the way, you don't have to go somewhere, you can even sit at home and get the necessary help. I already know how to achieve this. You just need to always address to professionals. This is a good option in fact. I already know, I have found an excellent therapy here https://calmerry.com/text-therapy/ https://calmerry.com/text-therapy/ . They have helped me a lot and I am sincerely grateful to them. I hope that it will be the same in the future. These are real professionals who know what to do and how to do it.

ilikeerp 6y ago

I wish we could drop the word 'vulnerable'; that's what a gazelle is before a lion rips its head off. The OP was open and honest rather than vulnerable. If we want equality and open dialogue, we have to be careful to make our language inclusive. 'Vulnerable' is associated with being weak for some people and isn't an inclusive word. I don't consider myself vulnerable when I share something close to my heart. I would never share anything in a space where being 'vulnerable' was encouraged. Open and honest.. not vulerable.

Pokepokalypse 6y ago
I think it's a very constructive word. Because in this world; very often, making yourself emotionally vulnerable DOES expose one to some pretty horrible abuse, if you do it in the wrong setting. And it often ends up making the problem worse, prolonging or even preventing recovery. We'd really like to live in a world where people are not driven to attack each other when they are down. But unfortunately, that's not the world we live in, and I think people need to be pretty vigilant when they're going through something like this and looking for help. TBH I find that anonymous internet forums are very useful places for this sort of thing, (because they're free, and convenient) - but on the other hand, there are some really bad predators out there who are constantly on the lookout for a gazelle to eat.
- jbverschoor 6y ago
  You can be closed and still be emotionally vulnerable. Openness is not vulnerability. In fact, if you're open, you've either processed, you might be very stable/strong, or you have people around you to be open with - a safety net. So yes, let's drop the "vulnerability" word.
kls 6y ago
This is a good point, when I talk about my suicide attempt I don't feel vulnerable, I feel it comes from a position of strength. Honesty does not have to come from vulnerability, it can come from a position of strength but a commitment to a moral duty to help others.