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Damn, that's a shitty hand you've been dealt. I hope you find your luck turning around, and I hope you can allow yourself to operate at 10-20% without too much

by rexpop 6y ago

Damn, that's a shitty hand you've been dealt. I hope you find your luck turning around, and I hope you can allow yourself to operate at 10-20% without too much judgement; an individual can only accommodate so much at once. Thank you for sharing this on HN. It's always good for us, as a community, to acknowledge the less ebullient, bullish sides of our lives.

watermelon59 6y ago
Yeah, it hasn't been easy. But I still count myself lucky, since a lot of people everywhere have had it much worse. Regarding work, I was a dumbass actually. I didn't share with any superior what was going on, spent months both hating myself and also fearing being "found out". But recently I felt so overwhelmed that I had to bring it up. I was afraid to do it, only to find out I should've done it much earlier. My manager and my skip-level were incredibly understanding and accomodating once I shared with them, and even offered to reduce my "available capacity" when planning next quarter's work, with no reduction in salary or anything. Truly amazing. I'm still quite low in productivity, but it's great to have the space to be so while I sort things out.
- supersour 6y ago
  Thank you so much for sharing this. I've been dealing with the exact same situation for the past few months and I am really happy to hear that your manager was supportive. I am confident that it will get better! And you should be too. Also, I am not sure if you are doing therapy, but I would really recommend David Burn's CBT guide [1] (the meat of the book is in the first part). [1]: https://www.pdfdrive.com/feeling-good-by-david-burns-e33413232.html https://www.pdfdrive.com/feeling-good-by-david-burns-e334132... Right now, there's someone thinking of you and believing that you will continually improve :)
  - watermelon59 6y ago
    Thank you for the kind words and support :)

by rexpop 6y ago

watermelon59 6y ago

Yeah, it hasn't been easy. But I still count myself lucky, since a lot of people everywhere have had it much worse. Regarding work, I was a dumbass actually. I didn't share with any superior what was going on, spent months both hating myself and also fearing being "found out". But recently I felt so overwhelmed that I had to bring it up. I was afraid to do it, only to find out I should've done it much earlier. My manager and my skip-level were incredibly understanding and accomodating once I shared with them, and even offered to reduce my "available capacity" when planning next quarter's work, with no reduction in salary or anything. Truly amazing. I'm still quite low in productivity, but it's great to have the space to be so while I sort things out.

supersour 6y ago
Thank you so much for sharing this. I've been dealing with the exact same situation for the past few months and I am really happy to hear that your manager was supportive. I am confident that it will get better! And you should be too. Also, I am not sure if you are doing therapy, but I would really recommend David Burn's CBT guide [1] (the meat of the book is in the first part). [1]: https://www.pdfdrive.com/feeling-good-by-david-burns-e33413232.html https://www.pdfdrive.com/feeling-good-by-david-burns-e334132... Right now, there's someone thinking of you and believing that you will continually improve :)
- watermelon59 6y ago
  Thank you for the kind words and support :)