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Never saw criticism quite in that light. Makes sense. Thanks.

• godelski 6y ago
  To be honest it is a difficult thing to think about it this way. We are psychologically primed to think we've got it figured out (takes more energy to improve than continue what we're doing and animals are about minimal energy usage). But you have to come at it from the mentality of "Everything I do is wrong, but I can make it less wrong." There's also different levels of wrong[0] and that's key. It is about converging on the correct answer (perfection is unobtainable). Being wrong doesn't mean 100% wrong, but when someone tells us we're doing something wrong we treat it like a discrete binary condition instead of a spectral one. So when someone says you're wrong, reframe it in your head as "this is how I can improve." And help others out by instead of calling them wrong, say that they can improve by x,y,z. I've found that this is a constant challenge though and while I've been trying to convince myself to think like this for a decade now, I'm far from being there. But hey, I think I'm stepping in the gradient direction, so that's converging to the solution, right? :) [0] Relativity of Wrong by Isaac Asimov: https://chem.tufts.edu/AnswersInScience/RelativityofWrong.htm https://chem.tufts.edu/AnswersInScience/RelativityofWrong.ht...