Personal experience. Worked in a group that did everything possible to avoid hiring, acknowledging, and rewarding women's contributions. Everything was comple

Personal experience. Worked in a group that did everything possible to avoid hiring, acknowledging, and rewarding women's contributions. Everything was completely dominated by one-upmanship and crude jokes. Unless you were in the in-group, you were screwed. I don't doubt your annecdote. I guess all I can say is, welcome to the club? Being part of the "out group" in a toxic workplace sucks. I've had men come up to me and say, "Wow now I get it." Because in their entire lives they had only worked on male dominated teams, and working on a toxic non hetero non male dominated team made them really uncomfortable, they were fine working on toxic hetero male dominated teams. All the norms had changed and they didn't know what to do. But until they experienced it themselves didn't get "what the big deal" is. I stay in tech because I don't want to be forced to take a lower salary because of cultural attitudes that women being around "ruins the atmosphere". But yes if I had a pile of FU money, I would bail in a second, not because I'm busy taking care of children or whatever excuse, but because people are insecure, emotionally immature and create a great deal of toxicity.