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Ah, that’s another common attitude. I’m white so I HAVE to admit to my racism. People don’t like it being called out on it. Had some girl come up to me and

Ah, that’s another common attitude. I’m white so I HAVE to admit to my racism. People don’t like it being called out on it. Had some girl come up to me and demand I apologize for being a a man, and how that’s kept her out of tech. I have many daughters and work hard to show them programming and other concepts. So yeah, she was flat being sexist. As a child I saw pictures of a crowd shouting at a a black girl for going to school. To this day always remember the look of pure hatred on their faces. I’ve always kept that in mind in dealing with others. I see that a same hatred in all kinds of people. Some of it has had grown socially acceptable now. Why need to strive to a point where none that maters. We treat each other with respect.

enraged_camel 6y ago
>> Ah, that’s another common attitude. I’m white so I HAVE to admit to my racism. No, but you should admit your privilege, which is a result of collective racism and sexism. This doesn't mean you yourself are racist or sexist. It does mean you benefited from those things. This doesn't mean it is your fault. It does mean you should at least try to empathize with people who are angry about it. The fact of the matter is this: regardless of what kind of life you have lived as a white man, things would have been worse if you had lived that life as a minority and/or a woman. >> Why need to strive to a point where none that maters. We treat each other with respect. There can be no respect without reconciliation. You cannot simply pretend that white people, white men in particular, didn't achieve their economic and social advantages and statuses (which include highly paid tech jobs!) due to immense collective privilege. Pointing this out does not make one a bigot. Complaining about it does not mean the complainer is full of hatred. You should not apologize for being a man or a white person, but you should at least try to empathize with people who did not manage to get where you are simply because of their race or gender.
- commandlinefan 6y ago
  > things would have been worse if you had lived that life as a minority and/or a woman What makes you think that? May have been true 70 years ago, but he pointed out one specific case where things would have been _better_.

enraged_camel 6y ago

>> Ah, that’s another common attitude. I’m white so I HAVE to admit to my racism. No, but you should admit your privilege, which is a result of collective racism and sexism. This doesn't mean you yourself are racist or sexist. It does mean you benefited from those things. This doesn't mean it is your fault. It does mean you should at least try to empathize with people who are angry about it. The fact of the matter is this: regardless of what kind of life you have lived as a white man, things would have been worse if you had lived that life as a minority and/or a woman. >> Why need to strive to a point where none that maters. We treat each other with respect. There can be no respect without reconciliation. You cannot simply pretend that white people, white men in particular, didn't achieve their economic and social advantages and statuses (which include highly paid tech jobs!) due to immense collective privilege. Pointing this out does not make one a bigot. Complaining about it does not mean the complainer is full of hatred. You should not apologize for being a man or a white person, but you should at least try to empathize with people who did not manage to get where you are simply because of their race or gender.

commandlinefan 6y ago
> things would have been worse if you had lived that life as a minority and/or a woman What makes you think that? May have been true 70 years ago, but he pointed out one specific case where things would have been _better_.