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Bumble is humuliating and outright discriminating for men. Yes I'm aware of the the flood of matches and of unwanted messages the women receive. Revoking the m

• PoignardAzur 6y ago
  As a man who isn't especially fond of radical feminism or silencing men, Bumble has been the best experience I've ever had on a dating app. The "women message first" rule takes a lot of pressure away from my shoulders. By applying a few common sense rules (eg only swiping rights on profiles that have a minimum of text), I've been able to have conversations that were mostly with women who were actually interested in talking to someone. I've still had some bad experiences (eg woman who already had a boyfriend and only mentioned it after a month, then dropped out), and there's still a sense of "you're a man so you're the one who has to keep the conversation going no matter what", but overall the interesting-conversation-to-effort ratio of the app has been way higher than I expected it to be. The conversations pick up faster, there's way less ghosting, I actually get the sense that the woman I'm talking to actually read my profile, etc. I really wouldn't call it humiliating. (I've heard from others that their experience was more in line with the usual apps though)