I still don't know of any happy long-term couples in my social network who met through OLD. The closest is a friend who is poly, meets all of her partners onli

I still don't know of any happy long-term couples in my social network who met through OLD. The closest is a friend who is poly, meets all of her partners online, and then has a heavily one-sided poly relationship, since it's much, much harder for the guy to get any side-action. This last guy has made it to two years, which is a record. Online dating is perfect for finding guys like that. The biggest problem with OLD is that nearly everyone actively using it has problems. Problems that need to be addressed with time, effort, therapy, psychiatric counseling, and/or medication. Also potentially surgery, if a pitbull mauled your face as a child or something. Don't feel bad if you aren't finding what you want on OLD, because you don't actually want to date the people who don't want to date you. And they're completely justified in not wanting to date you. You shouldn't want to date yourself either. You're both using dating apps, after all. That means there's lots of room for self-improvement, for everyone involved. Just being on the app is a red flag. If I had to succinctly describe the vast majority of people who aren't using OLD for hookups (without digging into underlying causes), who spend extended periods of time unhappily single, searching in vain for a partner on dating apps: men: too shy women: too picky