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In person dating is hard, online dating is harder. Dealing with anonymous people who get no penalty for being assholes is hard. Relationships are hard, even

by raducu 6y ago

In person dating is hard, online dating is harder. Dealing with anonymous people who get no penalty for being assholes is hard. Relationships are hard, even with people you have a lot in common. The last part -- matching with people you like is where I see a real need for a specialist that I'm an unaware to exist -- there could be soooo much at play there. The demographics of that group, what that group REALLY wants in a partner, honest feedback for yourself, what to improve in yourself etc etc.

xenihn 6y ago
Dating coaches? Or matchmakers. I don't know, I've never used either.
corpMaverick 6y ago
We just matched a friend of mine from New England with a friend of my wife from Mexico. He is a great guy but he had already given up on dating. And it was actually the girl who asked if we knew someone. But most people will not ask their friends. My wife and I are wondering how the Indian Matchmaker business model work. How do you align the incentives so you can help people and get some extra income?
eckza 6y ago
You ever ask a date why they swiped on your profile? It's a good question for 10-15 minutes in to the first conversation. It's always revealing - about you, about how you're perceived, and about how the other person perceives you and what matters to them. Also - bug your desired-sex friends and family. Show them your profile. Focus-group it. This has been massively helpful for me. At the end of the day: change stuff and see what happens.
closeparen 6y ago
The social penalties that constrain people in your circle from being jerks also constrain you from expressing potentially unwanted interest, though. People will stop introducing you to their friends if you’re constantly asking them out. I feel a lot more confident expressing what I want to strangers. Have you not found the same?

by raducu 6y ago

xenihn 6y ago

Dating coaches? Or matchmakers. I don't know, I've never used either.

corpMaverick 6y ago

We just matched a friend of mine from New England with a friend of my wife from Mexico. He is a great guy but he had already given up on dating. And it was actually the girl who asked if we knew someone. But most people will not ask their friends. My wife and I are wondering how the Indian Matchmaker business model work. How do you align the incentives so you can help people and get some extra income?

eckza 6y ago

You ever ask a date why they swiped on your profile? It's a good question for 10-15 minutes in to the first conversation. It's always revealing - about you, about how you're perceived, and about how the other person perceives you and what matters to them. Also - bug your desired-sex friends and family. Show them your profile. Focus-group it. This has been massively helpful for me. At the end of the day: change stuff and see what happens.

closeparen 6y ago

The social penalties that constrain people in your circle from being jerks also constrain you from expressing potentially unwanted interest, though. People will stop introducing you to their friends if you’re constantly asking them out. I feel a lot more confident expressing what I want to strangers. Have you not found the same?