Back years ago, I had tried eHarmony. When this article first came out, I had read it and started tracking my own numbers. It pretty much matched what the artic

Back years ago, I had tried eHarmony. When this article first came out, I had read it and started tracking my own numbers. It pretty much matched what the article is saying perfectly. It was a long time ago and I certainly don't have the data anymore. IIRC, there used to be a tell on the site where careful inspection of the user's profile page would tell you whether or not they had a full, paid profile (it was something like the background color of one of the fields being slightly different). Once I discounted the unpaid profiles from my numbers, it was actually a pretty high percentage of people that would respond, go through the several layers of canned intro questionaires, a few back-and-forth messages, and finally agreeing to a date. The end result was something like 25% of the people with whom I matched whom also had paying profiles would end up in a date. But if you were just tracking "percentage of 'matches' that lead to dates", it was something like 0.1%. Basically, it boiled down to eHarmony's system giving out less than 1 paying profile per day out of the 5 or 7 or 10 or whatever they gave you. You had to be diligent, working it every day, to get that number above 1 per week. Filter that down to 25%, it was about a date a month. It was exhausting. I had better luck talking to random people at social events. I met a few people through Craigslist by gamifying my posts, stuff like "to prove you're not a bot, you have to decrypt this ROT13 message and copy it in your email to me" [0]. I actually dated a woman for a little while whom I met when she came to my door looking for donations for some charity. But really, getting out of bars and going out to specific social events, getting into a group of people with whom I became friends, and letting them introduce me to women, was the ultimate key to finding my wife of 6 years. [0] Aaaah, Craigslist personals ads. It's all fun and games, until you meet the crazy one who tries to get you into a fight at a biker bar.