I'm not advocating that people stay in abusive relationships. I am aware of how common abuse can be. My original comment said "safety and sanity of course requi

I'm not advocating that people stay in abusive relationships. I am aware of how common abuse can be. My original comment said "safety and sanity of course require separation in cases." What I am advocating for is for spouses in a strained relationship not to consider divorce a solution that removes a problem from their life. What can happen very often is that it removes the problem from the spouses and places the burden of the problem onto the children. And then, of course, the children cannot discuss it because it is the child's fault that they have issues with their parents divorce (which is always very friendly and amicable).