My point isn't "stick it out even though there is no stable household". My point is you better work on your marriage, on creating a stable household, like your

My point isn't "stick it out even though there is no stable household". My point is you better work on your marriage, on creating a stable household, like your life depends on your marriage before ending it, because your children's life may very well depend on it. Work to achieve that stable household like you've never worked for anything else before. Go to therapy. Form new habits. Make sacrifices in your schedules to give your spouse what they need. Try and try again and see what works. Because your not just fighting for you, your fighting for your kids. P.S. given that I am in a marriage that is approaching a decade in length, I can assure you that I know just how shitty things can get in a relationship between two people :-)