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No one thinks that divorce with kids is easy. But your examples don't make much sense. You don't stay in a bad marriage so that holidays would be easier. > One
by tinyhouse 6y ago
No one thinks that divorce with kids is easy. But your examples don't make much sense. You don't stay in a bad marriage so that holidays would be easier.
> One of the greatest indicators of success in a child, in the future who you depend on, is a stable two-parent household.
I don't disagree. But you again miss the point. The reason people get divorce is because there's no stable household. Two-parent household doesn't automatically mean stable household.
- scop 6y agoMy point isn't "stick it out even though there is no stable household". My point is you better work on your marriage, on creating a stable household, like your life depends on your marriage before ending it, because your children's life may very well depend on it. Work to achieve that stable household like you've never worked for anything else before. Go to therapy. Form new habits. Make sacrifices in your schedules to give your spouse what they need. Try and try again and see what works. Because your not just fighting for you, your fighting for your kids. P.S. given that I am in a marriage that is approaching a decade in length, I can assure you that I know just how shitty things can get in a relationship between two people :-)
- catholicposter 6y agoThat’s not true or it doesn’t capture the reality. A LOT of people divorce because the grass is greener on the other side or because they caught their spouse cheating. Neither is appropriate grounds for a divorce. With the support of a society that recognizes the sanctity of marriage, you can work through those things. Ours is unfortunately not such a society anymore. But even still, you have a duty to each other and to your family and friends to make it work through extreme effort.