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Everyone has one life plus other lives which are dependent on your life. Don't lose sight of their happiness in the pursuit of your own.
by scop 6y ago
Everyone has one life plus other lives which are dependent on your life. Don't lose sight of their happiness in the pursuit of your own.
- stronglikedan 6y agoJust a personal anecdote to consider - if my sister had stayed together for the kids, she'd likely be dead at the hands of her ex by now. There are just some abusive relationships that must be terminated, kids or not. The abuse factor is more common than you may think, as most people are ashamed of it, so don't mention it to others when splitting up.
- scop 6y agoI'm not advocating that people stay in abusive relationships. I am aware of how common abuse can be. My original comment said "safety and sanity of course require separation in cases." What I am advocating for is for spouses in a strained relationship not to consider divorce a solution that removes a problem from their life. What can happen very often is that it removes the problem from the spouses and places the burden of the problem onto the children. And then, of course, the children cannot discuss it because it is the child's fault that they have issues with their parents divorce (which is always very friendly and amicable).