The problem is because society has not adopted non-monogamy as being acceptable in relationships, many people do not even consider it, which generates a smaller

The problem is because society has not adopted non-monogamy as being acceptable in relationships, many people do not even consider it, which generates a smaller pool of partners to find who may be compatible with non-monogamy. You have to find increasingly niche people, who are often abnormal in other ways that you wish they'd just be normal.