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i was just about to have another kid recently. to be honest, my thoughts were: please let it be a girl. like some other people mentioned - i also grew up around

i was just about to have another kid recently. to be honest, my thoughts were: please let it be a girl. like some other people mentioned - i also grew up around bar fights, drugs, football fans, etc. as a parent, i can only influence the kid to a certain degree. i believe most of the work is done by the environment, school, society. i just feel there's a higher chance for a boy to become an aggressive/pathological individual and hurt other people, because girls are not exposed to as much bullshit and toxicity.

mrweasel 6y ago
>because girls are not exposed to as much bullshit and toxicity Based on most people I know with girls, teenagers or pre-teens, as men we are no where near ready for the absolute onslaught of female bullshit and psychological terror girls will inflict on each other (and other women in general, including their mothers). Boys apparently are less bad, sure many of them will get into trouble, but it's manageable. Most just turns goofy for 10 years.
- damnencryption 6y ago
  I think boys in general are just too unaware of subtle differences in status, face, clothes, words, etc. That makes huge difference in how you converse and behave with each other. Generic bad word insult is probably not going to affect me even if targeted. I am not going to remember it but I have noticed women do and for a long time even if minor or as a joke. My female cousin had a journal where she entered things about people and scored them.
- JacobSuperslav 6y ago
  I'd say that you're right, but in the end the outcome is there's a high chance of a girl becoming a person that gets hurt but is more or less empathetic to others, and boys becoming aggressive and hurting others. Just my subjective opinion that I came to after looking at kids growing up where I live(Spain). I'm sure it varies a lot based on where you are too. We still have a lot of thus "machismo" thing going on here.
milchek 6y ago
> because girls are not exposed to as much bullshit and toxicity. I don't agree. Males are more prone to physical conflicts, females are more prone to psychological conflicts. In our current internet age, psychological conflicts can be just as, if not more, damaging than a physical altercation. Both sexes can do plenty of damage in their own specialised ways. Look at the current suicide rates in young girls (https://edition.cnn.com/2019/05/17/health/suicide-rates-young-girls-study/index.html https://edition.cnn.com/2019/05/17/health/suicide-rates-youn...) and the reasons why this is happening, for example.

mrweasel 6y ago

>because girls are not exposed to as much bullshit and toxicity Based on most people I know with girls, teenagers or pre-teens, as men we are no where near ready for the absolute onslaught of female bullshit and psychological terror girls will inflict on each other (and other women in general, including their mothers). Boys apparently are less bad, sure many of them will get into trouble, but it's manageable. Most just turns goofy for 10 years.

damnencryption 6y ago
I think boys in general are just too unaware of subtle differences in status, face, clothes, words, etc. That makes huge difference in how you converse and behave with each other. Generic bad word insult is probably not going to affect me even if targeted. I am not going to remember it but I have noticed women do and for a long time even if minor or as a joke. My female cousin had a journal where she entered things about people and scored them.
JacobSuperslav 6y ago
I'd say that you're right, but in the end the outcome is there's a high chance of a girl becoming a person that gets hurt but is more or less empathetic to others, and boys becoming aggressive and hurting others. Just my subjective opinion that I came to after looking at kids growing up where I live(Spain). I'm sure it varies a lot based on where you are too. We still have a lot of thus "machismo" thing going on here.

milchek 6y ago

> because girls are not exposed to as much bullshit and toxicity. I don't agree. Males are more prone to physical conflicts, females are more prone to psychological conflicts. In our current internet age, psychological conflicts can be just as, if not more, damaging than a physical altercation. Both sexes can do plenty of damage in their own specialised ways. Look at the current suicide rates in young girls (https://edition.cnn.com/2019/05/17/health/suicide-rates-young-girls-study/index.html https://edition.cnn.com/2019/05/17/health/suicide-rates-youn...) and the reasons why this is happening, for example.