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Sure you get more practice but what you're getting practice with is online dating, not dating in general. If you're a man who's not in top 10% of most desirabl
by idrios 6y ago
Sure you get more practice but what you're getting practice with is online dating, not dating in general.
If you're a man who's not in top 10% of most desirable, it's a barren wasteland. Your best hope becomes to attempt to match with basically anyone, and even when you do match most won't respond. So maybe you tried to be witty the first several times and got no response or possibly unmatched. A lot of men will lose their wit after this and just start sending "Hey" in hopes of getting some kind of response.
Meanwhile if you're a woman, nearly anyone who you click 'like' will be a match (except for the few you really want). The men you'll match with may not be charming because they've become tired or desperate or jaded, some may be outright rude, sexist, or cruel, and maybe the guy you want isn't responding at all -- because he's in that 10% of guys that all of the women are trying to match with and he's ignoring you.
The upside of it being impersonal so you have more freedom to screw up without much effort or commitment is also it's downside, where the people you match with don't put much effort or commitment in for you either.
- 908B64B197 6y ago> If you're a man who's not in top 10% of most desirable, it's a barren wasteland Then how comes the marriage/dating rates are way higher than 10%?
- grenoire 6y agoLagged effects.
- T-hawk 6y agoSelf-selection. The women who aren't chasing the top 10% find a workable match sooner and remove themselves from the pool. It's the same adverse-selection effect as "why are all my job candidates terrible?" Because you're only interviewing the people who have failed to get a job.