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Just a quick note of my thinking. You are calling it FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) but it's full-fledged MO, without the FO part.

by Rygian 6y ago

bagacrap 6y ago
colloquially this is how the acronym is used though (doesn't have to make sense)
mola 6y ago
Missing out is not necessarily meaningful. FOMO is the anxiety caused by missing out. which may cause you more pain than actually missing out on that thing.
dahart 6y ago
Ah this is a great point - worrying about something that could happen as opposed to worrying about something that did happen, but also leads me to the conclusion that the very idea of “missing out” is pure fear, a narrative about what other people are doing and the self-imposed expectation that you should be doing the same thing, right? Maybe there is no MO without FO?
- kordlessagain 6y ago
  Emotions just are. Thoughts come and go, but we may or may not pick the ones on which we loiter. If undesirable emotions ebe when we loiter on certain thoughts, repeated behaviors may emerge. Let's do this to get rid of that emotion, your brain might say to itself. Missing something, like your sunglasses, makes you wonder where they are, look for them, call people asking if you left them over, etc. This is worry, which is a light version of fear. "Missing out" isn't like looking your sunglasses but still makes you wonder if where you are isn't where you should be, which is still a type of anxious behavior which will lead to repetition if the emotional response is allowed to go on unchecked. Check out "Plutchik's wheel of emotions" for emotion groupings.
- Thlom 6y ago
  If you choose to miss out then watching other people having fun on snapchat is no problem. The anxiety and/or depression kicks in when you see your friends or social group having fun together without you when you never were invited in the first place.
drdeca 6y ago
Perhaps "feeling of missing out" could work as a good description? If more reminds one of things that one is "missing out" on, one probably feels more that one is "missing out" more than otherwise would, given equal amounts of things that others are doing that one is not doing?

Just a quick note of my thinking. You are calling it FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) but it's full-fledged MO, without the FO part.

by Rygian 6y ago

Just a quick note of my thinking. You are calling it FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) but it's full-fledged MO, without the FO part.

bagacrap 6y ago

colloquially this is how the acronym is used though (doesn't have to make sense)

mola 6y ago

Missing out is not necessarily meaningful. FOMO is the anxiety caused by missing out. which may cause you more pain than actually missing out on that thing.

dahart 6y ago

Ah this is a great point - worrying about something that could happen as opposed to worrying about something that did happen, but also leads me to the conclusion that the very idea of “missing out” is pure fear, a narrative about what other people are doing and the self-imposed expectation that you should be doing the same thing, right? Maybe there is no MO without FO?

kordlessagain 6y ago
Emotions just are. Thoughts come and go, but we may or may not pick the ones on which we loiter. If undesirable emotions ebe when we loiter on certain thoughts, repeated behaviors may emerge. Let's do this to get rid of that emotion, your brain might say to itself. Missing something, like your sunglasses, makes you wonder where they are, look for them, call people asking if you left them over, etc. This is worry, which is a light version of fear. "Missing out" isn't like looking your sunglasses but still makes you wonder if where you are isn't where you should be, which is still a type of anxious behavior which will lead to repetition if the emotional response is allowed to go on unchecked. Check out "Plutchik's wheel of emotions" for emotion groupings.
Thlom 6y ago
If you choose to miss out then watching other people having fun on snapchat is no problem. The anxiety and/or depression kicks in when you see your friends or social group having fun together without you when you never were invited in the first place.

drdeca 6y ago

Perhaps "feeling of missing out" could work as a good description? If more reminds one of things that one is "missing out" on, one probably feels more that one is "missing out" more than otherwise would, given equal amounts of things that others are doing that one is not doing?