Taking Anki out of it, it's certainly challenging to be circumspect about the things you're enthusiastic about just not mattering either to anyone or just to th

Taking Anki out of it, it's certainly challenging to be circumspect about the things you're enthusiastic about just not mattering either to anyone or just to the specific person you're droning in about it to. Likewise if someone asks, they might just be doing so because they know it's something you're enthusiastic about, and aren't looking for your lit review on the subject. "Oh you skateboard? I was thinking of getting into that" is now met with a meager acknowledgement and nothing more. "Can you teach me?" is now met with "No", because people just don't really give a damn and they have other stuff going on that they might not realize in the moment. Replace skateboarding with programming or anything else and you have feigned interest, so it's best to turn it around and ask them what they're into. Bringing Anki back into it for a second, I did not have any success with Anki software or really any software. It just did not help me beyond giving me access to long lists of words. Instead, SR with written flash cards and questions seems like night and day.