It’s an organizational/professional culture issue. Lawyers are trained to instinctively operate and communicate in a way that seems outrageous and like straight

It’s an organizational/professional culture issue. Lawyers are trained to instinctively operate and communicate in a way that seems outrageous and like straight up bullying to reasonable non-lawyer colleagues, but seems to them perfectly reasonable and simply being competent at their job. I think this disconnect is a big part of why lawyers hold such a reviled place in polite society.