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Sucks what you went through, mate. The best revenge is living well - you have to let it go. I would also echo what some of the other people have said about str
by gadders 6y ago
Sucks what you went through, mate. The best revenge is living well - you have to let it go.
I would also echo what some of the other people have said about strength training or a martial art. You might get some peace from knowing that you can't change the past, but what happened to you won't recur. You'd be surprised at the number of bodybuilder, powerlifters, martial artists etc that talk about starting their sport after being bullied.
- WarOnPrivacy 6y agoIn my case, the empowerment I got from martial arts rested along side of helplessness, rather than ease it. I do grant that shifting between empowerment and helplessness is better than just feeling helpless. Remember that the other product of abuse is broken judgment. On a side note there were always guys in my martial arts classes who were there to learn the skills that would help them bully more effectively.
- gadders 6y agoIt's not impossible that you get bullies in a martial arts class, but unless they're the instructor there is normally someone better than them that will spot it and put a stop to it (in my experience anyway).
- WarOnPrivacy 6y agoConscientious instructors certainly stop in-class mistreatment of other students. However instructors don't know the full measure of a student's heart; nor do they hear most chatter among students. In my experience, it's not at all uncommon for bullies to use martial arts classes to prepare them for positions of authority - particularly law enforcement. To be clear, this doesn't throw the least bit of shade on martial arts nor does it implicate instructors in any way. It's just an unfortunate reality. Also, I really believe the better opportunities to address bullies are before and after this point.