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I would love it if that became more of a thing - arranged marriages organized by first parties. Personally I don't need the flirting and dating and romance and
by watermelon59 6y ago
I would love it if that became more of a thing - arranged marriages organized by first parties.
Personally I don't need the flirting and dating and romance and all that stuff. What I need is someone who shares my values and is willing to enter into a marriage as a social contract. Being married has a ton of personal and social benefits, and having a spouse who brings in as much income as you works like an insurance policy of sorts in a number of life situations (e.g. long-term job loss).
Obviously there needs to be chemistry if both parties are interested in a monogamic sexual relationship being part of their marriage. But if both parties are willing to dispense with all the dating rituals, that can be determined in seconds.
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- tartoran 6y agoDuring those ‘dating rituals’ people actually get to know eachother a bit before comitting to having/raising a child together. I find it a bit odd to not spend some time together before taking this decision.
- watermelon59 6y agoYeah, that's true. But there's a difference between typical dating and being upfront about what you want. Usually people look for "the spark" and all that when dating.
- watwut 6y agoThe whole point of dating is to figure out whether the other person shares your values, is generally compatible and want similar marriage style as you.
- watermelon59 6y agoBut it’s full of little games. And a lot of people date for fun, not necessarily because they’re looking for someone to marry.