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I obviously don't want to cast dispersions on people who want to do this out of the goodness of their hearts but this just seems like a magnet for pedophiles.

I obviously don't want to cast dispersions on people who want to do this out of the goodness of their hearts but this just seems like a magnet for pedophiles. I know many people reading this are thinking I am crazy or paranoid, but as someone who knew a pedophile as a small child (he was a bus driver, and no I wasn't molested by him, but he did go on to rape another student) I can tell you they will find any job or volunteer duty that allows them to molest kids, even if it destroys their lives. They are constantly scanning any avenues to pursue their aims and are willing to totally alter their careers and lifestyle to fake their way into a position of authority around children. Just a warning to those out their who would think "he just like kids, I can trust this <teacher, priest, etc.>" don't, you still must supervise and listen to your child. I and other bus passengers warned our parents that this man was acting suspiciously and we were ignored.

notRobot 6y ago
Such people will always find ways to get to kids. The solution is to create systems so that people who are attracted to children recognise that's wrong and can get psychological/psychiatric help to control their condition without being shamed to the extent that they cannot even confide in mental health practitioners.
- hoka-one-one 6y ago
  Is there a name for this argument? The "people will always find a way to do X no matter how difficult you make it" argument? I see it everywhere.
  - k__ 6y ago
    Same goes for "but will someone think about the kids?!" No?
- question000 6y ago
  I don't really see how this comment makes sense, shaming a pedophile is going to make them more likely to seek treatment. While it's bad to demonize people with mental illness, these people don't typically think they have a problem, unlike depression or alcoholism the victim is someone else not the mentally ill, they typically won't care until they are shamed. I'm just saying this website should have a warning because I can 100% guarantee pedophiles are trawling it looking for access to children, like they would any other kid based online forum.
  - notRobot 6y ago
    > shaming a pedophile is going to make them more likely to seek treatment This is not how it works. And we should never shame someone if they have a mental illness that they cannot help having, and if they've never acted on the urges.
  - ck425 6y ago
    You have to make it clear that acting on those urges is morally repugnant while also saying that having the urges isn't fundamentally immoral. That's a tricky balance to walk but it's whats needed if we want these folk to come out of the woodwork and actively seek help before they commit abuses.

notRobot 6y ago

Such people will always find ways to get to kids. The solution is to create systems so that people who are attracted to children recognise that's wrong and can get psychological/psychiatric help to control their condition without being shamed to the extent that they cannot even confide in mental health practitioners.

hoka-one-one 6y ago
Is there a name for this argument? The "people will always find a way to do X no matter how difficult you make it" argument? I see it everywhere.
- k__ 6y ago
  Same goes for "but will someone think about the kids?!" No?
question000 6y ago
I don't really see how this comment makes sense, shaming a pedophile is going to make them more likely to seek treatment. While it's bad to demonize people with mental illness, these people don't typically think they have a problem, unlike depression or alcoholism the victim is someone else not the mentally ill, they typically won't care until they are shamed. I'm just saying this website should have a warning because I can 100% guarantee pedophiles are trawling it looking for access to children, like they would any other kid based online forum.
- notRobot 6y ago
  > shaming a pedophile is going to make them more likely to seek treatment This is not how it works. And we should never shame someone if they have a mental illness that they cannot help having, and if they've never acted on the urges.
- ck425 6y ago
  You have to make it clear that acting on those urges is morally repugnant while also saying that having the urges isn't fundamentally immoral. That's a tricky balance to walk but it's whats needed if we want these folk to come out of the woodwork and actively seek help before they commit abuses.