> I realized that it is all fundamentally unfair and biased (apologies for the long post) imho it's all about boundaries. You may have have a strong disagreem

> I realized that it is all fundamentally unfair and biased (apologies for the long post) imho it's all about boundaries. You may have have a strong disagreement with a family member about a topic. But if they have a car accident you will drop everything there and then, and run to them, even if you 'hate' them for voting XYZ, or believing in Zeus or Ganesha. Silly example: when I donate blood, I don't care (EDIT: care = I am not concerned) about the religion, colour, nationality, etc of the person that will receive it. I do it to help save a life. Anyone who is a donor does it to save someone else's life. It could be the case that your (vs your family/loved ones) lifestyles are fundamentally different i.e. you are married to a person of X religious persuasion, or Y nationality, or X colour. In which case, "hi, Boundaries, bye" and then THEY made the conscious choice to remove themselves from your life, and NOT the other way round. In your example, (again imho) saying something anti-semitic bad, just like saying anti-black is bad, same like saying anti-(i.e.)-italian is bad, etc. I have written in this forum before, we all got 1000 reasons to dislike/separate and/or hate one-another (vegans vs meat-eaters, followers of Y religion vs followers of Z religion, ManU fans vs ManCity fans, and so on). My definition of freedom is the following: your rights stop, where my rights begin, and my rights stop, where your rights begin. I know, this leaves a pretty large grey line. If I like Sepultura, I will use my headset but leave me alone, and I will leave you alone while you listen to your Spice Girls (using simple example to avoid passionate responses). > I had to be careful not to voice opinions to keep good relationships. The Minimalists say "you cannot change your friends, but you can change your friends". If you have to fake everything to be liked and accepted by a certain group, then perhaps withdraw yourself from that group? In the end it is your choice.