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To provide a story of the opposite, I'm another atheist with very center-left politics with extremely Trumpy Christian family (they moved out to a rural area, p
by criley2 6y ago
To provide a story of the opposite, I'm another atheist with very center-left politics with extremely Trumpy Christian family (they moved out to a rural area, prepping with guns and supplies, the whole nine yards) and I never took the "high road" of being silent with them when they went on their tirades.
My rule was I never brought up religion or politics, but I would defend my religion and politics to the fucking end of the earth if you bring it up, condescend to me, attack my views with conservative media talking points etc.
And my family learned, through the years, to never ever touch the subject because it isn't worth another big the-family-versus-me as I'm max volume playing evidence debunking their stories on my cellphone louder than they can shout their next narrative.
It doesn't hurt that my grandfather is known to be "extraordinarily stubborn" and so, if he can, so can I, and if they accept his, they accept mine.
The result is very civil and completely de-politicized family events. It's actually lovely for everyone. They know to turn Fox News off and keep their opinions on politics to themselves, and we've continued to have an active and healthy relationship even though they live much further away.
Standing your ground isn't a bad option, because if your family doesn't respect you at all, why would you want to be around them anyway?
- sandworm101 6y agoThe word for your grandfather would be "obdurate". Rather than stubborn or obstinate, obdurate specifically means an unwillingness to alter one's position in the face of valid argument.
- incangold 6y agoThis is a lovely story. Thanks. I’m quite a bit more liberal than my family, and we manage to get on too, with basically this approach. Over the years we’ve also found plenty of areas of agreement, if we stay off the hot button topics. It gives me some hope.