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The easiest way to not be an interrupter is to be quiet until it's your turn to talk or when someone asks you a question. Whatever you have to say can wait, no

The easiest way to not be an interrupter is to be quiet until it's your turn to talk or when someone asks you a question. Whatever you have to say can wait, no matter how relevant it is. If it's important, write it down for later. This is not that difficult.

bloodorange 6y ago
In some groups, you'll never get your turn. As an experiment, I once counted how many half-second (or more) pauses there were in a meeting I had to attend at work. In half an hour (the duration of the meeting), there were none. On the other hand, I agree with you. I see some people saying "interruption is ok". I disagree. It has to be an exception reserved for keeping the meeting on track. The normal course of things should be that everyone gets their turn to say their bit or to "pass". People who aren't able to wait for their turn or take too long typically will understand if you/the-manager have/has a brief chat with them later (or the person who called for the meeting should bring them back on track).
- moltar 6y ago
  In my circle of close guy-friends it’s so common to just always crack jokes and banter that there are zero silent moments. In fact there’s often more than one person yelling over another person with a better joke or twist on a previous joke or some story. It’s like a bazaar. You do need to time it right to get the word in, but you can’t wait for a silent moment. It’s like merging on the highway. You can’t wait for all cars to stop. Have to time the merge correctly and force your way in, even if nobody is letting you in.
  - bloodorange 6y ago
    Social settings are not the same as meetings at work. I don't mind sitting back quietly and in fact prefer others carrying the conversations when in a social setting. My point of view above was only about official meetings. Work shouldn't be an environment where one can only be heard by being rude (interrupting).

bloodorange 6y ago

In some groups, you'll never get your turn. As an experiment, I once counted how many half-second (or more) pauses there were in a meeting I had to attend at work. In half an hour (the duration of the meeting), there were none. On the other hand, I agree with you. I see some people saying "interruption is ok". I disagree. It has to be an exception reserved for keeping the meeting on track. The normal course of things should be that everyone gets their turn to say their bit or to "pass". People who aren't able to wait for their turn or take too long typically will understand if you/the-manager have/has a brief chat with them later (or the person who called for the meeting should bring them back on track).

moltar 6y ago
In my circle of close guy-friends it’s so common to just always crack jokes and banter that there are zero silent moments. In fact there’s often more than one person yelling over another person with a better joke or twist on a previous joke or some story. It’s like a bazaar. You do need to time it right to get the word in, but you can’t wait for a silent moment. It’s like merging on the highway. You can’t wait for all cars to stop. Have to time the merge correctly and force your way in, even if nobody is letting you in.
- bloodorange 6y ago
  Social settings are not the same as meetings at work. I don't mind sitting back quietly and in fact prefer others carrying the conversations when in a social setting. My point of view above was only about official meetings. Work shouldn't be an environment where one can only be heard by being rude (interrupting).