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Why do you say so? Is the default different?

• rendall 6y ago
  SFans and urban west coast in general are known for a very friendly style of communication, even when the communication is negative. The rule of thumb is to say something positive, then say your negative thing, then say something positive again. People who are not used to that style find it confusing, and will often miss the fact that they have been dinged. Saying something negative directly without varnishing is considered outrageously gauche.
  • pmiller2 6y ago
    I've worked in SF for a few years and not really experienced the "shit sandwich" style of criticism, as I've grown to call it.
    • redis_mlc 6y ago
      SF HR departments are actually training staff to talk that way. Of course, they call it "compliment sandwich" instead. The really soft shit sandwich is when somebody opens with superfluously thanking you for attending a scheduled meeting, then attempts to attack you. They think they have to thank you as the first layer of their shit sandwich, before the garbage layer. Of course, it sounds ridiculous to hear somebody thank you for doing nothing except showing up. The reason for such "training" is that there is an epidemic of staff complaints against each other. It does keep HR staff busy (fullly-employed), but it also causes attrition.