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> and he is quite obviously not talking about slapping in response being verbally abused, not at all. Well maybe we have not seen the same video then. i quote:
by mam2 6y ago
> and he is quite obviously not talking about slapping in response being verbally abused, not at all.
Well maybe we have not seen the same video then. i quote:
"Some women wont leave it alone. They want to have the last word and wheb you give them the last word their are not happy with it and they want to say it again. And they will try to get you into a provocative situation."
Its the litteral definition of gaslighting your partner. Its a litteral case of verbal abuse.
Sure he talks about women but only because the interviewer asks about the provocative idea of "slapping a women", but its the same situation with a guy in a bar that tries to provoke you and it gets physical..
If anyone is sexist here its the interviewer framing the situation as "omg man slapping a woman" to make him look bad, when its just "person who is verbally abused slapping the abuser to make it stop".
Once again i wouldnt personally react like he advocated but he is kilometers away from a spousal abuser. If anything the video ends by saying he never had any trouble with his wife..
- pseudalopex 6y agoNot letting something go isn't gaslighting or verbal abuse.
- mam2 6y ago"And they will try to get you into a provocative situation." Jesus you guys really would really say anything to make him look bad. How else would you even be able to convey "gaslighting" or "abuse" with words at that time.
- pseudalopex 6y agoI actually didn't say anything about Connery. Gaslighting was called gaslighting or trying to make someone think they're crazy. Abuse was called abuse. Even trying to provoke someone isn't gaslighting. But that isn't what he said. He just said "and get into a really provocative situation". He also said he hadn't changed his mind from when he said "If a woman is a bitch, or hysterical, or bloody-minded continually, then I’d do it." Reacting to verbal abuse with physical abuse usually just escalates the situation. So it would be bad advice even if he meant what you think he did.
- mam2 6y agoI think he meant exactly what you said, and i agree its escalation, and personally i would not do it. Its just not "spousal abuse" like OP said trying to make hime look like evil. Its just light escalation that he say he doesnt want to do on the first place. Its not the end of the world even if its bad. Its just like the end of world in this thread because its about hitting a woman. He would say yeah "i would puch a guy who harrass me in a bar if he doesnt stop" and no one would bat an eye.
- pseudalopex 6y agoMany people would bat an eye at that. Even light escalation would be counterproductive. Turning a conflict physical isn't light escalation anyway.