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I'm going to add my reply to be downvoted with the rest of them. There seems to be some unwritten rule that you're only allowed to say good things about people

I'm going to add my reply to be downvoted with the rest of them. There seems to be some unwritten rule that you're only allowed to say good things about people when they die. And I think that rule needs to end. Let's be honest and recognize that people are complex even when they die. Spousal abuse is wrong and people who think it's OK should be called out for that.

implements 6y ago
Perhaps celebrate the best of people (who are flawed but otherwise good) when they die, and then after a discrete interval acknowledge their faults, too? - Would be my opinion.
pmachinery 6y ago
> There seems to be some unwritten rule that you're only allowed to say good things about people when they die. It seems to always happen in forums, as here, where some people complain that it's somehow 'too soon' to mention something negative, but it doesn't happen in obituaries, which commonly don't just stick to superficial 'good' aspects of someone's life or career. In the case of Connery, for example, all of the following, and more, refer to his statements on slapping/abuse: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2020/oct/31/sir-sean-connery-obituary https://www.theguardian.com/film/2020/oct/31/sir-sean-conner... https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/sean-connery-dead-james-bond-star-loved-around-world-b33737.html https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/sean-connery-dead-james-b... https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/features/sean-connery-death-james-bond-untouchables-obituary-tribute-cause-bahamas-b1481134.html https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/featu... https://www.latimes.com/obituaries/story/2020-10-31/sean-connery-dead https://www.latimes.com/obituaries/story/2020-10-31/sean-con... https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/davidmack/sean-connery-dies-obituary https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/davidmack/sean-connery-...

implements 6y ago

Perhaps celebrate the best of people (who are flawed but otherwise good) when they die, and then after a discrete interval acknowledge their faults, too? - Would be my opinion.

pmachinery 6y ago

> There seems to be some unwritten rule that you're only allowed to say good things about people when they die. It seems to always happen in forums, as here, where some people complain that it's somehow 'too soon' to mention something negative, but it doesn't happen in obituaries, which commonly don't just stick to superficial 'good' aspects of someone's life or career. In the case of Connery, for example, all of the following, and more, refer to his statements on slapping/abuse: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2020/oct/31/sir-sean-connery-obituary https://www.theguardian.com/film/2020/oct/31/sir-sean-conner... https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/sean-connery-dead-james-bond-star-loved-around-world-b33737.html https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/sean-connery-dead-james-b... https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/features/sean-connery-death-james-bond-untouchables-obituary-tribute-cause-bahamas-b1481134.html https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/featu... https://www.latimes.com/obituaries/story/2020-10-31/sean-connery-dead https://www.latimes.com/obituaries/story/2020-10-31/sean-con... https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/davidmack/sean-connery-dies-obituary https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/davidmack/sean-connery-...