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Pretty much. If you want to talk to me about what my symptoms are, and what I do to treat it, fine, I'm happy to discuss things most of the time, with the unde

Pretty much. If you want to talk to me about what my symptoms are, and what I do to treat it, fine, I'm happy to discuss things most of the time, with the understanding that it's me telling you about my life experience, nothing more. I know I'm coming off rude here, but the truth is, I don't want your advice on how to fix things, or worse, your advice that it's not as bad as I think it is, and that I can do whatever activity that I know will cause me problems tomorrow.

rootusrootus 6y ago
> I know I'm coming off rude here On the contrary, this is excellent advice! I know I feel a tendency to want to share my knowledge with friends and family because I think it may help. I should know better, because I do not like being given advice, and yet I have a lot of trouble avoiding giving it myself. When I try, I am accused of being aloof or uninterested. A hard line to walk, keeping my mouth shut is enough work all by itself ;-)
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Waterluvian 6y ago
You're really not coming off as rude at all. It's actually helpful. The bottom line is that I want to be supportive. And if I don't know how, I might make a guess at it and that guess might be the natural response of "try to help fix their problem." It makes sense that you just don't want to hear that. I can empathize avec depression. Just listen to me and be patient with me. You can't fix this and it's kind of insulting that you try, as if I was too dumb to think up your idea. (This also relates to software reviews too: I've spent a week on this problem. You suggesting I'm doing it wrong after five minutes of review can be really insulting)
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