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I feel the bitterness as well (31 here). A few observations/tips (that I gave myself): * I've noticed many don't appreciate the bitterness as the bitterness ne

I feel the bitterness as well (31 here). A few observations/tips (that I gave myself): * I've noticed many don't appreciate the bitterness as the bitterness needs to align with their beliefs and people their beliefs are different. If it doesn't align, then all they feel are unpleasant emotions. * Being/feeling bitter is destroying my soul. Don't give into it, I know you have your justifications. I have mine, but ultimately it's a one way ticket to depression land and it's not a fun place. * Get rich on aspects that people don't pay attention to (aka how I also happen to win resource-based boardgames). Some examples are here [1]. * Keep networking * Keep improving * While showing bitterness is a risky thing, showing that you're looking for work is a good thing. Showing side projects is a good thing. Anything that looks constructive and positive in the area of where your needs aren't being met is a good thing. So focus on applying, focus on building stuff. * I know it's tiring, but what I'm experiencing is that now that I'm working at a company that the job is easy, because web dev is relatively easy compared to what I did at uni. Good luck, I hope that one day you'll be happy again. [1] Examples of getting rich on aspects that people don't pay attention to (e.g. when going for a job that has bad pay): - Flexible working hours - Ability to work 4 days per week - Amazing opportunity to learn - Flexibility to work from wherever - The flexibility to not always work at 100% Examples for if you aren't working (and can't find a job): - Freedom to work on whatever - Freedom to network with whomever - The freedom to work at a nice pace

barrenko 6y ago
Similar situation here, I am interpreting (or parsing) all of this as a test to see if I really do love the grind that much.
- cfcosta 6y ago
  No need to, to be honest. The grind only goes while you still enjoy what you are doing. Anything else is harming your productivity and well-being, be careful. Also, development in a sense is a numbers game. You get more experience and try to expand as much as you can, rinse and repeat. Entrepreneurship is only another way, you can make it happen (and many of us did) just being a normal employee.
- mettamage 6y ago
  I don't love the grind. So these observations/tips to myself are in spite of loving the grind. What helps me a bit to get through the grind is to observe myself while working or applying for jobs. I'm noticing when I get into things, and when I am not getting into things and asking myself why. Sometimes it's really clear why, but sometimes it's subtle. In rare cases I can tweak my inner psychology a bit to like things a bit more, i.e. suffer less. Now that I'm finally working, I have ample of opportunity to see when I'm in a flow state :)

barrenko 6y ago

Similar situation here, I am interpreting (or parsing) all of this as a test to see if I really do love the grind that much.

cfcosta 6y ago
No need to, to be honest. The grind only goes while you still enjoy what you are doing. Anything else is harming your productivity and well-being, be careful. Also, development in a sense is a numbers game. You get more experience and try to expand as much as you can, rinse and repeat. Entrepreneurship is only another way, you can make it happen (and many of us did) just being a normal employee.
mettamage 6y ago
I don't love the grind. So these observations/tips to myself are in spite of loving the grind. What helps me a bit to get through the grind is to observe myself while working or applying for jobs. I'm noticing when I get into things, and when I am not getting into things and asking myself why. Sometimes it's really clear why, but sometimes it's subtle. In rare cases I can tweak my inner psychology a bit to like things a bit more, i.e. suffer less. Now that I'm finally working, I have ample of opportunity to see when I'm in a flow state :)